Waiting is an activity that nobody likes to partake in. Not knowing what is going to happen till the deadline, just sitting there anticipating the outcome. It is a dreadful feeling. However, women who are trying to get pregnant are probably aware of the two-week wait after ovulation. This kind of waiting is different. It is laden with hopes and dreams, along with a fear of failure and what-ifs. It will be challenging to occupy your mind with thoughts that are not about your pregnancy. It is hard not to think about something just because you are told not to. It simply isn't that easy. However, you can try to minimize your worries. Try to replace those anxiety-inducing thoughts with positive and calming ones. It is ok if these distresses creep into your mind from time to time. But, it is imperative not to dwell on them. By paying any heed to them, you will allow them to grow like weeds, infesting your thoughts and emotions. Thus, creating a vicious cycle of negativity. And this negativity is not beneficial for your physical and mental health.
So, what can you do during this two-week window?
Meditate
I know. You have probably heard this a few too many times. You might be skeptical about it, but do give it a try! And not once or twice, try to build up a practice. Begin by sparing at least five minutes a day for yourself. Maybe you had a tiring day at work and are too exhausted for a relaxing bubble bath. So give yourself a few minutes to unwind your mind and body. Did you know that there are several types of meditation practices? There is mindfulness, loving-kindness, progressive relaxation, etc. Movement meditation involves peaceful activities such as yoga, walking, or even gardening, activities that allow your mind to find peace while your body moves. Find out which type of meditation you have time for and which works for you.
Take care of your sleep
Sleep is the kind of remedy that is supposed to rejuvenate your body and mind. But stress and anxiety can interfere with your sleep. Always aim to get 7 to 9 hours of sleep. Follow sleep hygiene practices; if your mind is restless at bedtime, take a melatonin supplement (under the guidance of your fertility doctor), eat meals earlier in the evening, and avoid caffeine a few hours before bedtime.
Nourish your body with healthy foods
Take care of your diet! Although you may not have your answer yet, it is best to prepare your body for pregnancy. Avoid alcohol, limit caffeine intake, and avoid undercooked or raw foods. And don't forget your prenatal vitamins, especially folic acid. Additionally, continue with your previous workouts. Perhaps do not try out a new workout routine since you do not want to put your body under extra stress.
Wind down
Speaking of stress, you have probably predicted what I am going to say about it. Yes! Avoid it. And of course, this is not an easy task. You can't unload it just because someone is asking you to. But stress impacts your hormone production and regulation, whether it is emotional or physical stress. And nobody wants anything upsetting their hormonal balance during this crucial time. Thus, it is time to destress; maybe reread your favorite book, go out with your friends, or to the movies. Perhaps meet up with someone you want to catch up with, or maybe a date night with your partner?
Connect with your Fertility Coach
Talk to someone that can support you. Fertility coaches are specially trained to help you get out of overwhelm so you can get back to living wholeheartedly. Fertility and pregnancy plans are sensitive subjects. It is vital to share your thoughts and worries with someone that understands and support you. You might have big emotions that are best to let out as they come and forgo keeping them locked up inside. This can create a pressure cooker effect and wreak havoc on your hormones. Keep that line of communication open.
Be wary of pregnancy symptoms
PMS and early pregnancy symptoms are very similar and can be easily confused with each other. So take any symptom that you experience with a grain of salt. Pregnancy symptoms vary greatly amongst women. Every cramp, ache, or food craving may be a sign of pregnancy, or it may not be. Hence, try not to overthink the changes your body may go through.
Distract yourself
Try not to sit idle. Idle minds attract worrisome thoughts and what-ifs. And that is what you do not need right now. If you need to distract your mind, do not turn to work. Although, work is a productive distraction. In the long run, it isn't good for your health. Doing work in your off time may lead to more stress. Therefore, turn to something else for distraction. Maybe take up an old forgotten hobby, or learn more about a new one. Or maybe go through your 'to watch later' list on Youtube (because I sure do have a growing list of videos about varying, unrelated topics).
These are just a few essential tips that may help you survive this two-week wait. During this time, focus on yourself. Be gentle with yourself. You know how they say; that one should treat themselves like how they would treat someone they care about and love? Do exactly that. Use loving words and positive affirmations for yourself. Allow your anxious mind to wander, but do not let it go too far. Do not reprimand yourself for overthinking or for making a mistake. This wait is challenging, but you are in control of how you choose to spend these two weeks. So, nurture your body, slow down your thoughts, and breathe